If you are exhausted from putting everyone else’s needs first and carrying the constant guilt of setting boundaries, you do not have to navigate it alone. I offer specialized telehealth individual therapy across Massachusetts, New Hampshire, and Vermont for adults seeking healthier relationships, self-advocacy, and lasting peace.
Codependency & Relationship Issues
You’re the One Everyone Leans On
Do you always take care of everyone else? Do you put other people’s needs before your own? Saying yes when you mean no has become automatic. You worry about whether everyone around you is happy.
And when you choose yourself, guilt shows up right on schedule. Everyone else’s needs stay loud, and yours barely whisper. Somewhere, it started to feel like your job to hold everyone else together.
If you’re nodding along, you’re not alone.
The Quiet Cost of Keeping the Peace
You spend a lot of energy keeping the peace. Conflict is something you avoid at almost any cost. You overthink every conversation, replaying what you should have said. You apologize even when you’ve done nothing wrong.
The overthinking follows you home and keeps you company at night. You read the room before you read yourself. All that effort to keep everyone else happy leaves you exhausted. None of it leaves much room for you.
And somewhere underneath it, a question waits: who takes care of me?
Somewhere, You Learned Your Needs Came Last
You love deeply, and you care deeply. Those are real strengths, not flaws. But somewhere along the way, you learned that your needs came last.
Now you feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings.
You try to fix their problems and hold their pain, and your own gets forgotten. So you lie awake wondering why you keep ending up in the same kind of relationship. Why speaking up feels so hard, and why having a boundary comes with guilt.
Underneath all of it sits the question of whether you’ll ever feel like enough.
How We’ll Work Together
These patterns didn’t form overnight, and they won’t change overnight either. Together we look at where they came from and notice the beliefs that keep the pattern repeating.
From there we practice setting boundaries that actually hold. Your confidence gets built one honest conversation at a time.
And we work toward relationships that feel safe, balanced, and honest.
I’ve done this work in my own life, so I’m not guessing at what it takes. You don’t have to stop caring about other people to do it.
You simply learn to care for yourself, too.
Something Different Is Possible
Imagine saying no without the guilt trailing behind it…trusting your own voice when it matters, asking for what you need out loud, and speaking honestly without rehearsing it first.
Relationships where you feel respected instead of drained. Loving the people in your life without losing yourself in them. Waking up focused on your own day instead of everyone else’s worries.
Rest that doesn’t feel like something you stole.
That version of relationships is possible, and it’s the direction we work toward.
Therapy isn’t about fixing what’s broken. I don’t believe you’re broken. You’ve just been holding too much for too long.
You deserve a place where you don’t have to explain why you’re exhausted, or pretend you’re okay. Where someone finally hears it, says “that makes sense,” and means it.
Healing doesn’t start when you have all the answers. It starts the moment you stop holding the questions alone. Let’s talk through what’s going on and see whether working together is the right fit. A free consultation, no pressure. Call me today at: (413) 449-6804.
